How To Take Responsibility For The Faults Of Others

“If you're still angry with your parents for your childhood, for example, this speaks more to who you currently are than what actually happened in your childhood. To continue blaming any person or event from the past, makes you the victim, and reflects more on you than whoever or whatever it is your blaming” (Personality Isn’t Permanent by Benjamin Hardy, 2020, p48).

It feels good when something isn’t your fault. If it isn’t your fault, then you can blame someone else for your problems.

This trap is easy to fall into, because lots of things happen to us that aren’t our fault. But the answer isn’t to sit in it and be smug about being right.

The answer is to take responsibility and decide what our next step should be. Did someone harm you? Decide what you learned, acknowledge that it really hurt, and then decide where you should go from here.

What do you think?
Joseph